Sometimes you get out of things without realizing your out of it. You look at others cribbing at it, and say to yourself, shoot, didn't i got through the same thing before. You see it and see yourself and see the difference. Relieves you, that you've moved past it.
Something that you desperately want to push away from you, when you just stop making that move and leave things to make its own way, bangggg you see it happen!!